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For people who are not bereaved but have friends
or family members who are, it is always difficult
knowing what to do or say around the bereaved person.
For the first 51 years of my life, I too fell into this category
and was never quite sure how to behave in the presence
of the grief stricken.

Now that I am on the other side of the fence, I
realize how poorly I had sometimes handled
these situations. I have wanted to write and share
my feelings as a bereaved person and how I wish
others would interact with me but I have not found
the energy or proper words to do so.

I recently read this passage in a
Compassionate Friends Newsletter
from,
Want to Help, But I Don't Know How
by Jacqueline Rogers,
and she has eloquently expressed
and communicated the words I would like
to share.

Listen
Listen gentle people, and hear my truest
needs…I hear you stumbling for words.

Relax; There are no words…I hear you
remembering a funny story about my loved
one and looking embarrassed because you
are laughing. Share with me. Let me
laugh. It gives me something to hold onto
in the middle of the night when I feel only
pain. Be happy yourself…and let me be me…

On days when I can laugh, I will.
On days when I can speak of my loved one,
I need you to share my memories..
you don’t have to give me answers, for I will
learn to live without them.

You don’t have to pretend that my loved
one never existed, thinking I would forget
if you do. Let me speak his name, and
you speak it too. He is always a part of who
I am. If you take that from me, I will be less
than who I am.

From Want to Help, But I Don’t Know How
by Jacqueline Rogers

 

Memorial Page

Poetry1

Poetry 2

Poetry 3

Poetry 4

Bassim 1

Bassim 2

Madeleine 1

Madeleine 2

Madeleine 3

Photo Album

1st Anniversary 1

1st Anniversary 2

1st Anniversary 3

A Letter from Heaven

I Stood Beside Your Bed Last Night

To those I love

God's Gift

When tomorrow Starts Without Me

You've Got a Way

My Sweet Lady 
2-01

The Bargain 11-01

I'll Never Find Another You  11-01

Ever and Always 
11-01

By Mornings Light  11-01

Truest Words    7-02

When All Is Said  11-02

To Where You Are  11-02

Christmas Memories  12-02

We Remember-Patriotic 5-03

Remembering Our Dad
Father's Day

Valentine Page

Finding the Right Words.. 6-03

Notes from My Heart
11-04

Never Gone as Long as we Remember
11-05

Lovely Stained Glass Artwork
courtesy of :Cookies Graphics

Water Applet courtesy of:
Anfy

Music:Water is Wide
Traditional English Tune
Sequenced by Barry Taylor